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How to Save a Sexless Marriage

Here’s a hint: it takes more than lighting a few candles and popping on some jazz music. In fact, it requires more talking than actual sex. We sometimes want to force ourselves into intimacy, thinking that if we get into it then we’ll get more in the mood. But the truth is that many couples stop having sex when more serious problems present themselves in other areas of the relationship.

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Sugar & Spice: Embracing Sexuality in Asian Culture

Sugar & Spice: Embracing Sexuality in Asian Culture

For many Americans, it’s hard to imagine a culture that doesn’t or can’t openly express their sexuality, whether publicly through fashion or intimately with a partner. But for the Asian community, that’s been a reality for many generations. The expectations of tradition and society have long held Asian men and women back from feeling the confidence, satisfaction, and pleasure that come from embracing one’s sexuality.

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Desire Discrepancy: Living with it & Talking About It

Desire Discrepancy: Living with it & Talking About It

Let’s face it. For most couples, a healthy sex life is often indicative of a healthy relationship. But a lack of sex or asynchronous sex drives don’t have to be the end of a relationship that is otherwise functioning well. Desire discrepancy between partners is normal, but if it’s causing conflict or resent in your relationship, it’s important to address it.

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Masturbation/Self-Pleasure

Masturbation/Self-Pleasure

Masturbation is such a natural part of being human. It is sexual, sensual, and nourishing. Unfortunately, we never learn about those messages in school (if some of us even got a sex education class) or growing up. Let's explore the great gift of masturbation/self pleasure.

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