Common Sexual Concerns that Sex Therapists Usually Deal With

Sexual concerns are far more common than many people realize—and they can affect anyone, regardless of age, gender, or relationship status. Whether the issue is physical, emotional, or relational, sex therapy provides a safe, supportive space to explore what’s happening and work toward a healthier, more fulfilling sex life. In this post, we’ll cover some of the most common sexual concerns that bring people to sex therapy, and how a trained therapist can help.

Low or Mismatched Desire

One of the most frequent reasons people seek sex therapy is a difference in sexual desire. Maybe one partner wants sex more often, or maybe you’ve noticed a drop in your own interest over time. Low libido can stem from many factors—stress, hormonal changes, relationship conflict, medication, or emotional fatigue.
A sex therapist can help you and your partner talk openly about desire without blame or shame. Together, you can explore underlying causes and discover ways to reconnect emotionally and physically.

Difficulty with Arousal or Orgasm

Many people experience challenges with arousal or orgasm at some point. This might look like trouble getting or staying aroused, erectile difficulties, vaginal dryness, or not being able to reach orgasm. These experiences can be discouraging and may lead to performance anxiety or feelings of inadequacy.
In sex therapy, you’ll learn how to reduce pressure and anxiety, rebuild confidence, and better understand your body’s responses. Sometimes, therapy is paired with medical support to address any physical factors, creating a holistic approach to sexual wellness.

Pain During Sex

Painful sex—whether occasional or ongoing—can affect intimacy and self-esteem. It can be caused by physical issues, past trauma, or tension and anxiety. Unfortunately, many people suffer in silence, unsure where to turn for help.
A sex therapist can work collaboratively with medical providers to address both the physical and emotional sides of pain during sex. Therapy can help you develop relaxation techniques, improve communication with your partner, and rebuild comfort and pleasure in intimacy.

Healing from Sexual Trauma

Experiencing sexual trauma can deeply affect how you feel about intimacy, trust, and your body. Healing is possible, but it takes time, care, and professional support.
In trauma-informed sex therapy, you’ll move at a pace that feels safe for you. Therapy focuses on helping you regain control, establish healthy boundaries, and reconnect with your sense of safety and pleasure. Compassionate guidance can make it possible to reclaim confidence and rebuild intimacy after trauma.

Communication and Emotional Intimacy

Sometimes, sexual challenges stem from emotional disconnection rather than a physical issue. When couples struggle to communicate about sex—what they enjoy, what they need, or what feels off—it can lead to misunderstandings and distance.
A sex therapist helps couples improve communication and emotional closeness. By learning how to talk about sex with openness and curiosity, many couples find their connection and satisfaction naturally deepen.

Exploring Sexual Identity or Orientation

Sex therapy isn’t only for those in relationships—it can also support individuals who are exploring their sexuality, identity, or orientation. Many people seek therapy when they feel uncertain or want to better understand themselves without judgment.
Sex therapists provide an affirming space where you can express your thoughts freely, gain clarity, and build confidence in your sexual identity. This process can be empowering and deeply healing.

Your Path to Healing and Intimacy

Sexual concerns are a natural part of life, and seeking support is a sign of strength. Whether you’re experiencing differences in desire, physical discomfort, communication challenges, or questions about your sexual identity, The Relationship Center of Colorado offers compassionate, inclusive sex therapy tailored to your needs. Our therapists provide a safe space to explore your concerns, improve intimacy, and strengthen connection—whether you’re seeking individual guidance or support as a couple.

You deserve a fulfilling, authentic sex life, and help is available at The Relationship Center of Colorado.

Relationship Burnout

Do you ever feel like your relationship just isn’t what it used to be? Maybe you don’t understand what happened or is happening to attribute to this lackluster relationship existence together. Do you feel like the spark or the energy is missing? Are you both bored? 

But you love each other! It’s just… not what it used to be. This is what some of us call “Relationship Burnout.” 

Signs of Relationship Burnout

Boredom

Things that you both used to look forward to seem more like a chore than anything. This could pertain to sex, cooking together, and spending time together relaxing. You could feel like there’s nothing “bad” happening but there’s nothing to look forward to. You could be feeling stuck and in a lull. You may struggle to WANT to put effort into the relationship at this point. 

Feeling Unimpressed

Those little quirks you used to love about your partner could feel like flaws more than quirks now. You may feel unsurprised by anything your partner does because you have both fallen into habits without making much effort for anything else other than your day-to-day routines. 

Instead of feeling excited, you feel underwhelmed, unimpressed, and annoyed. The person you fell in love with may seem different. At this point, you may be worrying about the future of your connection with your partner. 

Disengagement

This can happen in various avenues like intentional time together, social events, mutual connections becoming more distant, you aren’t considering each other as much in your day-to-day lives, etc. maybe you don’t turn to talk to your partner about things you would have in the past because you just don’t care to put as much effort in to make them happy at this point.

Doubts

Are you regularly questioning whether this person is the “right” person for you? Do you daydream about other people or being single?

Lack of Patience for Each Other

You groan, nag, snap, and berate each other over and over again, talking about changing and never actually doing it. This lack of patience allows resentment and animosity to build in your relationship. 

Relationships Take Work. 

Every relationship has its ups and downs and can benefit from relationship therapy. See all of our relationship therapy services or contact us to schedule a consultation.