One of the hardest things we face as parents is the fact that our children are not immune to the hardships of the world. As much as we aim to protect them and guide them, some forms of illness and injury cannot be avoided. When these affect our children, we want to do everything in our power to heal them with love and make them feel better, but too often we are left with heartache in spite of our efforts. So how do we rekindle hope within ourselves and begin to heal from that heartache? We begin by finding new opportunities to connect with our children, embracing self-care routines that prioritize your child’s and your own mental health, and ultimately, accepting and appreciating the reality of our situation.

Connecting in a New Light

Whatever you and your family may be going through, it’s important to realize you are not alone in experiencing the stress and heartache of having a child with special needs. There is a huge community of parents and educators who are ready and willing to guide you through the hardships as well as the successes. Remember that enjoying your time with your child, celebrating their accomplishments and appreciating the joy you bring to each other's lives. Find a community for you and your child to join together, and expand your support network to foster feelings of connection and safety.

It’s easy to get caught up in the idea that if our child is not feeling well then we must not feel well either. We all want to be sympathetic toward our children, but there is a difference between caring for their unique needs and overextending ourselves at the expense of our own mental health. Be sure that you are tending to your own mental health needs and finding time for yourself, even if it means relying on friends and families to babysit or support you in some other way.

Finding Acceptance & Appreciation

Accepting the reality of our situation is one of the most vital things we can do to start healing from the heartache associated with special needs. Forgive yourself when things aren't perfect and strive to appreciate the small successes you and your child experience together. Not everything will go according to plan and that is okay. If you struggle with depression as a parent of a special needs child, you aren't alone, and counseling services like family therapy can go a long way in fostering better communication and building healthy routines for you and your family.

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